Friendship Drama

 We've all had fights with our friends before, and most of the time you make up. But when should you, when should you not?

Human Beings are not perfect and never will be. That's just another disadvantage of being Homo sapien. But we are one of the smartest of all creatures, so when some kid steals your candy don't act like they started World War Three. But these imperfections should not leak into a good relationship. Ok, a friend of yours insults you in a jokish way and you feel hurt. The person says sorry, you two make up and go buy ice cream at the nearest Baskin Robins. Sensible. But then picture this scenario-

Friend insults, you hurt, friend doesn't apologise feeling there is nothing to apologise about, you two start a feud, other friends are forced to pick sides, insults and curses are thrown everywhere and a once valued friendship crumbles apart. That just shows how stupid we Homo sapiens can be!

Many friends may make you feel unheard or like a piece of doo-doo. But this doesn't mean you should be like them. Know that your happiness is contagious. A person who doesn't like seeing you happy doesn't deserve to be your friend! 

Here are some ways to find a bad friend-

See how much you trust them

Distrust is not the best thing in a relationship. Especially if you feel like your trust is being played with. And if you feel your friend doesn't trust you. Give them a reason too. Show them that you really care!

Listen to their words.

Mean names without a teasing smile? Listen, I give my friends nicknames too! I gave my friend Fiona a bunch- Guppy, My Personal Shrek, Budhhu, My Baby- but all with the intent of putting a smile on her face. If people call you stuff that is NOT funny and doesn't make you laugh even a bit, drop them like a piece of dung. Or you could take the more mature way out and talk to them about it and see how it goes.

They are about as reliable as a broken ladder.

If a friend happens to forget things from time to time because they genuinely are forgetful (like I am) they're good. But if they are the person like "Oh, sorry, forgot my wallet, could you pay?" every outing or is like "I know I said I'd help bake the cake for Riley's Birthday but something really IMP came up" every birthday, stick your tongue out because they are an imp. 

They'll never let you have a moment of peace.

One dramatic fight just ended and your friend is like, "Time for another!" a day after? Missy/Mister, we gotta have a one-on-one conversation! And if this problem is about someone doing something to that Royal Highness, you might as well tell that entitled queen to gather her shoes and walk out the door. Self-centeredness could also be a sign of narcissism.

They are as genuine as knock-off Prada.

"Listen, Bethany, sorry about never bringing my wallet and never showing up for important events because of totally important reasons." An apology! Hurrah! But is it sincere or are they just saying that because they want you off their back or want something? Listen to your almighty gut. It is probably telling you the truth. Pay attention to how they act, not just say!

They leave you alone on an island in the middle of nowhere

What I mean is, they isolate you. They tell stuff about your friends which might not be true, and they criticize your partner, coworkers and other close relationships. Maybe they might be right so make sure to listen and observe.

ARE YOU THE GIT?

I have been a trash friend before, I know that as well as I know my bestie, so perhaps your friends are not the problem. Read the list and check this with yourself, understand yourself with a clear, untainted mind. Remember, you are not a bad person. You just need to fix yourself a bit and change your perspective. This will not be easy. I never said it was. But the lengths you will go for the people you love marks your unwavering courage. So buckle up, it'll be a wild ride...

Sirius Out!